You Will Not Always Be in Control : Strategies to Managing Them

Caregiving is a challenging role, and caregivers may experience moments where control feels elusive. There, caregivers must seek support, education, and utilize available resources so that they can regain a sense of control and enhance their overall caregiving experience.

If you are feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about not always being in control, here are some comforting and motivational words for you:

1. You’re doing an incredible job: Remember that caregiving is a selfless act filled with compassion and love. Your dedication and effort are commendable, even if circumstances are beyond your control. Your presence and care make a significant difference in the lives of those you support.

2. It’s alright to ask for help: Caregivers must recognize that you are also human and have your own limits. It’s alright to reach out and seek assistance when needed. Accepting help doesn’t diminish your abilities as a caregiver; it shows strength and wisdom in recognizing the importance of a support network.

3. Flexibility is a sign of strength: Life is unpredictable, and caregiving often involves navigating uncharted territory. Embrace the fact that adaptability and flexibility are key attributes in providing the best care possible. Caregivers must be open to change. By adjusting  your approach demonstrates your resilience and resourcefulness.

4. You’re not alone: Many caregivers face similar challenges and emotions. Caregivers are encouraged to connect with support groups, online communities, or local resources where you can share experiences, seek advice, and find solace in knowing others understand your journey. Remember, there’s strength in unity.

5. Celebrate small victories: Caregivers should learn to focus on the positive aspects of the caregiving journey. By celebrating small victories and accomplishments like a smile from the person you care for, a moment of respite for yourself along the way can help you stay motivated and maintain perspective. 

6. Self-care is crucial: Caregivers must learn to care for yourselves too. Caring for yourselves is not a selfish act; it’s essential for your well-being and ability to provide quality care. Caregivers should take time for self-care, prioritize activities that rejuvenate your mind and body, and seek support when needed. 

7. You’re making a difference: The efforts caregivers have put in, no matter how small they may seem, have a significant impact on the lives of those you care for. Your presence, love, and support provide comfort, security, and a sense of belonging for your loved ones. Your dedication matters and brings light into their lives.

Remember, being in control at all times is not a realistic expectation for caregivers. Caregiving is not about maintaining absolute control, but rather about providing love, support, and compassion to your loved ones in need. Therefore, embrace the journey and be kind to yourselves caregivers!

This article is part 2 of a 2-part series. In the previous article You Will Not Always Be in Control : Understanding the Challenges, we discussed about some common factors that can contribute to the caregiver’s loss of control.